Giving your children unconditional love and support is the best gift you can give; it will lead them to self confidence and a strong parent child relationship. Love, sounds simple right? Well today, many parents are too worried about school grades, drug usage, and their own personal problems that they are forgetting to give there children the love and support they need. Depression in teenagers is at all time high and when children have bad relationships with their parents, they may feel that they are alone. So just like The Beatles said, “all you need is love” for, by giving your children this simple gift, you are ultimately giving self confidence, support, understanding, and a friend.
Love can be interpreted in many different ways, but in my opinion, it should consist of support and understanding. Teenagers today are going through many emotional situations such as peer pressure, fitting in, and rejection, they need to have someone who they can talk to, who will understand them, support them, and give them encouragement, what better person then their parents?
In the poems Warren Pryor (Nowlan, Alden) and The Average (Auden, W.H.) with out a doubt the parents loved their children, but they did not support or understand them. If they had, then their children would have been comfortable talking to their parents about how they have different dreams, instead they were afraid of their parents. If children are comfortable with their parents and feel their parents love then children will not find the need to rebel and will live their best lives.
Parents tend to think that they know what is best for their child solely based on their own desires. Many parents feel they can express their love through presents and money. But in my personal experience no amount of clothes, dolls, play stations, or money can replace the feeling a child feels after a failed test, a fight with a friend, or every day disappointments in life.
In The Veldt (Bradbury, 100) the parents’ expressed their love by giving their children everything they wanted. They spent endless amounts of money buying their children anything they desired. Yet, with all these expensive gifts the children hated their parents. What the parents’ did wrong was they did not spend enough time loving their children. All the things that parents were supposed to do with their children, machines did instead. If Wendy and Peter’s parents would have supported and spent quality time with their children I’m sure Wendy and Peter would not has wished their parents’ to be dead. We can learn from this story that you must not express your love through objects but through support and understanding.
Many children idolize their parents and what they want more than anything is their parents’ approval. By giving your child your support you are also giving your approval. When children do not have their parents’ approval or support they tend to go to drastic measures to achieve it.
The story of The Rocking Horse Winner (Lawrence, 953) is a perfect example of how important a parent’s love truly is. The mother only cared about herself and money. The son knew this and made money for his mother. He worked so hard to fulfill his mother’s wants that he ended up dieing for it. Giving your child your love and approval will prevent this from ever happening.
In my own life my parents have always supported me and have always been there for me. Being the average teenage girl, I have had many emotional experiences. There have been many times where I have felt insecure about, my friends, my weight, my grades at school, my future, and endless other things. Having my parents there to support me and to listen as I expressed my feelings helped a lot. Knowing that no matter what I did in my life they would always love me and be there for me makes me feel secure. I know I will never be alone
Depression in teenagers is at an all time high. Approximately one out of ten teenagers will suffer from depression. The role parents play in this is not that the parents are responsible, but having a comfortable parent child relationship prevents or helps overcome the depression. This is because teenagers who are depressed often feel they are all alone. According to the Church of Jesus Christ and Latter-Day Saints, “It is important that teenagers are given the encouragement and support needed to allow themselves to express their feelings.” (www.psychologyinfo.com/depression/teens.htm). If children are not comfortable talking to their parents then they unable to express their feelings and will fell all alone. Sadly, this helps contribute to suicide being the second leading cause death in people aged from 10-24 years old (www.ldsdepression.com/depression_in_teenagers.htm).
In conclusion, children need their parents’ unconditional love and support. Friends come and go but a parent is for life. I truly believe in treat other people the way you want to be treated. And why shouldn’t that apply to your children? Growing up you most likely appreciated the good relationship you had with your mother or father or you resented your parents and wished they understood you better. A parent is their child’s backbone, and if the parent isn’t there to support and understand them, no one will be. So, do your children a favour, make them feel loved and important because that is what will make a good parent child relationship; not expensive gifts, high standards, or lack of discipline, just love.
Have you ever experienced true love? I have and this is why I believe in family. I believe that my true comfort is sitting at home with my family and just doing whatever. Weather its playing a board game, or just eating a family dinner. We can always find something to talk about and never once have we gotten through something without a laugh. My family will always be there for me and I will always do the same for them.
I believe that when times are tough, my family is true comfort. Even if the pain is as small as not finding the right hair style or as big as a death. I don’t need some silly food to heal my feelings, all I need is a little love from my family and suddenly everything seems just fine even when it isn’t. I believe in family because even if you give no love to them and get lots in return, they will still love you just the same. I don’t think I have EVER gone to one of my friends houses and said to myself, “you know, I am really jealous of their family; I wish we could be like that.” Most of the time I do the exact opposite because I never once have regretted that I was born to this family because I think that this is the best possible family I could ever ask for.
I believe that I am truly the most blessed child in the world to have such a providing, loving, caring, and compassionate family. I remember a few months ago when we were sitting in our garage trying to go through things to put in a yard sale, and we came across these books my twin sisters made in the 2nd grade. As my dad was reading them aloud for us all to hear, we were all in a circle around him bundled up in blankets sitting in lawn chairs, and I just remember thinking how wonderful I have it and how I would be crushed if I didn’t have my family. I also remember a few months ago my grandmother passed away and we didn’t morn in the sorrow, but instead we sat around a dinner table and told these miraculous stories about how she could never cook and what she was best at, complaining?. We sat there for hours just thinking about the good times we had with her. That’s just part of the many things that I truly love about my great family, they always know how to get a good laugh out of you or at least a chuckle. This showed me that even at the worst of times my family was always going to love and support me.
Lots of people think that they should have the perfect life, and I don’t want that even if I didn’t have to experience the bad things I have gone through if that means I wouldn’t have been able to have the good times that I had with my family then bring on the pain because my family and I will just overcome it. Ever one talks about, “living the life” and guess what, I believe that I am.
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